I get it! I thought peeking beneath the bonnet at what was really going on in my deeper mind would be too painful to cope with.

I was terrified at what I’d discover lurking there!

The truth, though, is that our unconscious mind is always working for us, not against us.

Now I know the fear was just my primal survival brain erring away from change by trying to keep me rooted in the ‘safety’ of the familiar – even though the familiar it was creating for me felt terrible and wasn’t the life I truly wanted.

I was alive but barely living – I was on productivity overdrive, keeping myself busier than I’d ever been so I didn’t have to deal with the feelings of emptiness and anxiety.

It wasn’t until I’d hit rock bottom after my marriage fell apart that I realised something that changed my life completely.

If I wanted to change my life, it had to start with the only thing I could control: me.

I had no idea how to unlearn my limiting beliefs about who I was, what I deserved and what I wanted – and the loving relationship and little family I’d always wished for seemed further out of reach than ever.

But what I did know is that I was determined to find out.

It is true that when the time is right the teachers appear. The therapists and coaches I needed somehow came into my life. All I had to do was listen and commit to being responsible for my transformation.

Over the coming months, things got deliciously spiritual, and very scientific.

I spent months working on myself and eventually got to a place where I felt more confident and interdependent than ever before. I didn’t need a man for the first time ever – and for the first time I was truly enjoying myself.

I thawed my inner wisdom and started listening more and more to my real curiosities, opinions and desires. I was developing my sense of self and it was so fun. Everything fell into place in the most delightful, unexpected ways and I found myself more financially abundant and free than I had ever been before. Fast forward a few months and I found myself in Thailand, basking in self-made magic and then – BOOM – manifested a man and relationship that felt like ease and joy.

That was back in 2010. Now we enjoy a wonderful marriage, navigating our biggest challenge yet together – parenting!!

I am fully qualified in a range of powerful therapeutic tools and have extensive experience supporting motivated women to overcome their love blocking beliefs, experience freedom from heartbreak and feel confident, safe and empowered in their love life – with wonderful results.

Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns has never been more possible.